Often I can be quoted as saying the best Hypnotists in your life is you. Unfortunately the worst Hypnotists in anyone’s life is anyone else that uses any form of communication to effectively create a belief in our minds that is detrimental to our own well being, whether they meant well or not. It could be a teacher, a doctor, lawyer, or family member; we all use communication to express ourselves or to share ideas and thoughts. By definition when we communicate with another we are expressing ideas, emotions, and thoughts in order help this person gain an understanding of our own experiences. Now in doing this we inspire images, sounds, feelings to occur in another persons, that can at times be very compelling and may in fact change our model of the world and influence our thoughts and deeds in many ways. So in essence all communication is hypnosis. Sometimes these communications inspire us to overcome obstacles in our lives and other times they can be very harmful. Being a diabetic and a hypnotist I often find there is a great deal of laymen hypnotists in the world that truly mean well but in truth are very bad hypnotists and are completely unaware of how their advice can truly have very detrimental effect on the very people they are seeking to help. I call these people “Bad Hypnotists.” One group of people I have found over and over again that fall into this category are doctors. Just yesterday I had the fortune to have an experience that reminded me how a few simple words could change our lives and not so much for the better if we just accept the voice of authority and believe they are experts incapable of making mistakes.
A few days ago I had to reorder my prescription medications from the mail order service I use and when I did my doctor refused my refill my prescriptions until I could be seen by the doctor. After a phone call and argument with the nurse I scheduled an appointment at the end of the discussion and few days later I went to see my doctor.
When I came into the office they weren’t very busy almost as fast as I sat down in the waiting room I was called in to go to one of the exam rooms, and after a blood pressure test and a brief conversation about how my blood pressure never lowering beyond a certain point with my current prescription the nurse advised me to speak to the doctor about that. The nurse then tells me about someone in the office that wants to quit smoking and is interested in using hypnosis to do it. I thought that was a good thing at least I could get a client and make something out of the time I was there and could get a positive conclusion to my visit there one way or the other.
Then the doctor came in a moment later and that’s when things started to go down hill. After a few minutes of talking the doctor weighed me and applauded me for losing weight since my last visit. Then proceeded to tell me he wanted me to “lose 20 pounds by my next visit in 6 months, because most people once they reach 300 pounds almost always gain up to 400 pounds almost overnight.” He then proceeds to tell me he noticed I looked tired and yawned in his presence. So then he asked to listen to my lungs and when he was done he stopped and said to me “I know you don’t believe that you have Sleep Apnea, but I believe you do, but I‘m not going to argue with you about that today.”
I looked at him and said “Doc do you realize I sleep for about 4 hours every night, and I have 2 children that have night terrors that wake me up to clam them at least 2 to 3 times per night so what little bit of sleep I get is punctuated at almost every night?” He then totally ignores what I just said and replies by asking “your wife never complains that you snore?” A bit frustrated I tell him how my wife is an extremely light sleeper and knows I do not snore, and has refuted this claim from previous nurses and a doctor that simply would not believe that I am free of this problem. He then says “oh well she just probably doesn’t hear you when you do because she is tired from the new baby.” Then he sides steps the entire conversation and says “by the way congratulations on the new baby.”
The rest of my visit with him is a series of small arguments like this where he says something was either happening to me or will happen to me, including another warning about my weight and a reminder about the possibility of having to use insulin in the future if I didn’t lose weight.
I hear this everyday in my day job and in the people that surround me, since I began studying hypnotism my eyes have been opened to these kinds of suggestions that are give so off hand and careless by others that can and do sometimes create real problems where none had existed before these types of bad or negative suggestions are give to my friends or loved ones. And today I bring this up because I want everyone not only to just listen to themselves because after all we are only human and we communicate with others everyday many times per day, and I want everyone to remember behind every problem there is a solution and a reason. Sometimes all it takes is one small comment that can cause things that are terminal and life threatening. But we always have the option to use words to bring great joy and fortune to those that surround us if we just use a positive phrase to express ourselves instead of a negative, and chose to not accept the deceptive words that negatively stated can bring great sorrow and pain.
One way to remember this is this; if I told you simply “don’t think of a blue tree!” The way our minds work is this in order for you to not think of a blue tree you must first think of it and then negate it. So no matter what you do you must first think of a blue tree to not think of it. This is the nature of suggestion, once said and it reaches our ears, it has already entered our minds and can not be avoided unless we make the decision to cancel out its affect. A doctor once told me that my pancreas was going to fail and that he knew this as a fact with out the ability to test it. I asked him what the odds were that he was incorrect; his reply was you have a 1 out of 99 chance. I simply looked at him dead serious and said “doc, I feel sorry for 99 people right now.” He then said you don’t get it you don’t get to chose.” And I just smiled and said “really? I thought you had a degree in medicine and were a doctor. Because right now you’re playing fortune teller and that I know is not taught in medical school! And I always have a choice!” And my friends so do you.
To me anyone who tries to tell anyone any different is just another bad hypnotist.
A few days ago I had to reorder my prescription medications from the mail order service I use and when I did my doctor refused my refill my prescriptions until I could be seen by the doctor. After a phone call and argument with the nurse I scheduled an appointment at the end of the discussion and few days later I went to see my doctor.
When I came into the office they weren’t very busy almost as fast as I sat down in the waiting room I was called in to go to one of the exam rooms, and after a blood pressure test and a brief conversation about how my blood pressure never lowering beyond a certain point with my current prescription the nurse advised me to speak to the doctor about that. The nurse then tells me about someone in the office that wants to quit smoking and is interested in using hypnosis to do it. I thought that was a good thing at least I could get a client and make something out of the time I was there and could get a positive conclusion to my visit there one way or the other.
Then the doctor came in a moment later and that’s when things started to go down hill. After a few minutes of talking the doctor weighed me and applauded me for losing weight since my last visit. Then proceeded to tell me he wanted me to “lose 20 pounds by my next visit in 6 months, because most people once they reach 300 pounds almost always gain up to 400 pounds almost overnight.” He then proceeds to tell me he noticed I looked tired and yawned in his presence. So then he asked to listen to my lungs and when he was done he stopped and said to me “I know you don’t believe that you have Sleep Apnea, but I believe you do, but I‘m not going to argue with you about that today.”
I looked at him and said “Doc do you realize I sleep for about 4 hours every night, and I have 2 children that have night terrors that wake me up to clam them at least 2 to 3 times per night so what little bit of sleep I get is punctuated at almost every night?” He then totally ignores what I just said and replies by asking “your wife never complains that you snore?” A bit frustrated I tell him how my wife is an extremely light sleeper and knows I do not snore, and has refuted this claim from previous nurses and a doctor that simply would not believe that I am free of this problem. He then says “oh well she just probably doesn’t hear you when you do because she is tired from the new baby.” Then he sides steps the entire conversation and says “by the way congratulations on the new baby.”
The rest of my visit with him is a series of small arguments like this where he says something was either happening to me or will happen to me, including another warning about my weight and a reminder about the possibility of having to use insulin in the future if I didn’t lose weight.
I hear this everyday in my day job and in the people that surround me, since I began studying hypnotism my eyes have been opened to these kinds of suggestions that are give so off hand and careless by others that can and do sometimes create real problems where none had existed before these types of bad or negative suggestions are give to my friends or loved ones. And today I bring this up because I want everyone not only to just listen to themselves because after all we are only human and we communicate with others everyday many times per day, and I want everyone to remember behind every problem there is a solution and a reason. Sometimes all it takes is one small comment that can cause things that are terminal and life threatening. But we always have the option to use words to bring great joy and fortune to those that surround us if we just use a positive phrase to express ourselves instead of a negative, and chose to not accept the deceptive words that negatively stated can bring great sorrow and pain.
One way to remember this is this; if I told you simply “don’t think of a blue tree!” The way our minds work is this in order for you to not think of a blue tree you must first think of it and then negate it. So no matter what you do you must first think of a blue tree to not think of it. This is the nature of suggestion, once said and it reaches our ears, it has already entered our minds and can not be avoided unless we make the decision to cancel out its affect. A doctor once told me that my pancreas was going to fail and that he knew this as a fact with out the ability to test it. I asked him what the odds were that he was incorrect; his reply was you have a 1 out of 99 chance. I simply looked at him dead serious and said “doc, I feel sorry for 99 people right now.” He then said you don’t get it you don’t get to chose.” And I just smiled and said “really? I thought you had a degree in medicine and were a doctor. Because right now you’re playing fortune teller and that I know is not taught in medical school! And I always have a choice!” And my friends so do you.
To me anyone who tries to tell anyone any different is just another bad hypnotist.
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